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I have learned through the years that time flies fast and the older we get time goes by even faster. In a society where everyone is busy and instant gratification is easy to come by, we often miss the small things in life. With our noses constantly in our phones we are missing little things that would typically linger in our mind but instead, we are too distracted by the latest, post, news or tweet which in the big picture means little to nothing.
I am definitely guilty of this and trying to be better. During the summer, I am much better about this because life is a bit slower. I try to enjoy the moment. It isn’t going to kill me if I miss a photo op, call, Instagram / Facebook update or tweet. In fact, I might gain something more valuable, a tender moment from your toddler, a giggle with your third grader, a conversation with your tween or a proud moment from your now teenager. We are often scouring the internet to figure out how to better connect with our children, spouses or friends and really, it’s simple. We must BE PRESENT and PARENT WITH INTENTION.
Be Present in your Relationships
Is it always easy to be in the moment, nope, it’s not. Not at all! If you are anything like me, you have a million things going through your mind at all times! Here are some minor changes that can help a lot!
Identify Your Time Wasters
My biggest distraction is my phone but it can really be anything. It can even be things that are good for us but regardless, it’s good to identify them.
The other day, we had come home from swimming and we were all fried (yes, bad mom moment). After a full day of very little phone use we returned home and immediately started hydrating and using aloe. We were having so much fun, snacking, talking and laughing, it was awesome and pretty much phone free aside from the sunburn photos. I joke around to my hubby that we were celebrating the sunburns! Ouch!
When you are at a lunch with a friend it’s super rude to be constantly checking your phone. It kinda makes me crazy and I am guilty, especially if they do it first.
It’s also rude to be on a date staring at the tv in the bar. Since my husband is most distracted by this, I ideally sit with his back towards it. Although I will say, come football season, sometimes watching games at a bar is our date and that’s okay, there are many ways to be intentional.
Most importantly, be in the moment with your children. Get off your computer, put down your book and leave your phone in the car during your dates or in your room during evening cuddle sessions. It is tough, I get it and in all honesty, I think it’s something I will have to be forever mindful of but it is so worth it!
Schedule Distractions / Time Wasters
I think it’s important that we still enjoy these but we should schedule specific times for them so that when you are with others, you won’t be pulled and know that you can tend to these items during your own time. This might sound silly to schedule your time wasters but it’s helpful and will also keep you more productive as a whole. This is something I am working on and it’s not easy but, it’s a good thing!